Before Jacob and I had kids, we lived it up. We traveled to different cities, went to professional sporting events, dated frequently. We had a lot of fun and thoroughly enjoyed each minute we spent romancing each other.
Once kids entered the picture, our social life came to a screeching halt. We were longing for a little one for quite some time, and I especially was going to soak up every second with that human.
Then we started spitting out offspring rapid fire, and our focus shifted to giving our kids a loving home. Jacob made a couple career moves and we bought the house we live in now. He works hard to provide a comfortable life for us by working second shift and often taking overtimes.
A typical day looks like this: The kids wake up around 5:30-6ish. We all spend the morning together. After lunch, Jacob gets ready and goes to work. I am with the kids the rest of the day and put them to bed around 7. By the time Jacob gets home, we are both exhausted and immediately crash.
This schedule doesn’t allow for much quality husband/wife time, and during the work week, we say how we miss each other even though we see each other every day.
I have to tell ya, I am head-over-heels in love with Jake and we have only been on MAYBE three dates in the last year. With three very young kids, including one with type 1, who needs constant monitoring by someone well educated about diabetes, we don’t really have an opportunity for a getaway or a date night.
So, how do we keep our romance alive? We create date nights at home! Our very favorite thing to do is sit on the floor, play Rummy, and watch Friends reruns. We laugh and talk. We pick on each other and kiss. All in our pajamas, all from the comfort of our own home.
Other at home dates we love include laundry folding parties(more fun than it sounds), getting in heated debates about who’s high school is better(Wildcat pride!), and watching Star Wars(on movie 3).
Do we get interrupted by crying kids? Sure. Do we sometimes wish we could have a night out? Of course! But right now, we make it work. We make our alone time meaningful. And honestly, I’m just giddy thinking about our next home date tonight!